It is the nature of every system to fail at one point or the other (resiliency only exist in theory). Marriage is one of such systems that can fail at anytime. While systems Engineers take care of systems downtime, Motivation is all that is needed to take care of marriage downtime.
Hope you enjoyed the excerpt from the interview i had with my father. In case you did not read, search for it (the title is; motivation for the down times in our marriages part one) and read it. As i promised, this article will be centered around the interview i had with my Mother concerning her fulfilled, successful and happy marriage with my father. As usual, the rest part of this article will be devoted to listing and developing the points she gave as a recipe for being motivated in marriage as an institution.
The first point she gave is that partners (especially the wives) should make the word of God the vocal point of their union and obey its content. "whenever I remember the commandment that God gave through His servant Paul, I feel humbled and motivated to keep going in 'marriageology' as a course. You see, she said, for you to be motivated in marriage (An Institution full of odds), you need need to always make the word of God your guide - especially women. She also advised that women should ask for the Holy Spirit to give them the grace to carry on with the sometimes 'arrogance and pomposity' of men.
Another point she made is that she always use FLASHBACK (sweet memories) to get motivated and stay motivated in marriage. " I tell you, nothing motivates me better than recalling the sweet memories of our early days in marriage. Whenever my head and mind gets saturated by the inevitable frustration that goes with marriage, I quickly flashback to the 'good old days' of our marriage". My advise is "couples should learn to create mental picture of sweet memories in their marriage and see how motivated this will get them".
Remembering your off-springs (children) is another factor she says that motivates her. She said that merely remembering her children and the pain of (child) labour gets her motivated to keep up with the down-times in marriage. This according to her is so because she had wanted to lay good example for her children. So she accepts to swallow some ill-treatment just for peace to reign - she so much believe in leading by example.
Her advice to married couple is that they should never loose focus off the goal and primary aim of institutionalising marriage - 'making the world a better place, if it were not so, God would not have 'wedded' Adam and Eve. She went further to say that by striving to make the world a better place, married couples would find most if not all the motivation to make their marriage a happy one..
In her run-off line, she said:"Get married, Get motivated and enjoy all the Milk and Honey of marriage"
Okwuduche Chinweike is an accountant who found joy in helping people come out of the shackles of demotivation. This he does at http://www.motivationmotive.com
Also, he help parents get over the burden of parenting by giving them tips on parental issues please visit http://motivationmotive.com/parenting
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